Ah yes, another post about being in the dreaded ’20-something’ era. It seems to be an age that is garnering a lot of attention, as we all (according to the news) are just so ‘self-entitled and lazy’. Sure. I feel like there’s so much pressure on young women who are my age and older to be a thousand things at once and then think 5 years into the future, not allowing us to ever really enjoy what we’re actually doing. I thought I’d do an honest list of things that we really SHOULD NOT be worried about, hope it eases your mind.
1 – Marriage.
Yes, by my next birthday I will be the age my mum was when she married my dad. Yes, this worries me as I still get excited watching Frozen and remain certain there is no sadder moment than when Mufasa dies. We are not our parent’s generation, it is no longer a general thing to get married at 20/21. If this is what you want and is right for you, then fab, I would like to look at pictures of your dress. But if not, then just c h i l l o u t. You don’t ACTUALLY have to get married at all, you can live in sin (joke) and just live with someone. I listen to some of my friends’ expectations, saying by 23 they will be married and at 25 have a baby, and it makes me laugh. You can’t plan things like this, it’s something that will just happen, and hopefully it’ll be the perfect moment without you even knowing. If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, then just enjoy it for what it is, if you’re single, enjoy yourself man. You’re the best.
2 – Babies.
This goes hand in hand with the first point. This is the decade where MAYBE it might happen. But this is definitely not something to start getting in a tizz about. Just because it MIGHT happen in the next 10 years doesn’t mean you need to start worrying. Think about the 10 years between being 10 and 20, how much happened and how much you changed? Exactly. So no sweat. What will be, will be…
3 – ‘Having It All Figured Out’
This is my biggest pet peeve. Just because you’re TECHNICALLY an adult in the eyes of the law does not mean that you need to have everything sussed out. Only a few months ago I was writing essays about Postcolonialism, wrapped in a coat and gloves because my student house was so cold, asking if I could put tin foil in the microwave…and I am 21. So despite the fact I am legally allowed to do what I want, it doesn’t necessarily mean I can yet. And I don’t want to either, I’m still figuring everything out, which is quite fun as it goes. It’s fun messing up sometimes, realising what you shouldn’t do and thinking ‘Oh I’ve done that before and it didn’t work, let’s try this…’ It’s all about dem experiences, people. And no, apparently you can’t put tin foil in the microwave. Lesson learnt.
4 – Work Pressures.
My generation are facing a bit of a tough situation. There was once a world where you went to University, get your degree, and walk into a cosy little Grad scheme fresh out of university, jolly happy with yourself. Well that just is NOT the case in 2014. Employers expect an enriched CV full of internships here and there, amazing qualifications, blogs...oh and if you’ve managed to travel alongside all of this then you’re winning. But some people don’t have the time for all of this, or the money. So when you are finally ready for a job, you either can’t get one or you get an unpaid internship. Well people, let me tell you this, Kanye West was an intern not long ago for Fendi, so don’t feel too disheartened. Getting a job WILL HAPPEN. I promise. There’s a tonne out there for you clever clever people, it’s just about (sorry) the CV and Cover letter. Blurgh. But YOU WILL GET A JOB.
And when you DO get that job (well done!) do not worry about the future. You’re in your twenties, it’s all about finding out what you actually like to do. You may leave University dead set on becoming an Accountant for a major business in the city, and actually find out that you’d much prefer working for a Charity. That’s fine. You can chop and change, start again, and if you really get into a muddle, just take a break. It’s cool. Find what works for you. Don’t pressure yourself to work yourself into a hole, just do your best and you’ll be fine. You can do it.
5 – Money Money Money
So this is the biggest thing that I worry about. Money. Do I have any, where’s it gone, if I hadn’t have bought that £2 necklace from Claires Accessories when I was 10 would I be a multimillionaire now? The answer is: No. You’re not supposed to have a tonne of money at this age, unless you won the lottery/have savings/have rich parents. Now that I’m working I am better off than I was at Uni, where I thought I was rich if I was -470 (my Overdraft limit was -500). But even so, I still dip into that sweet sweet Overdraft by the end of the month, and that’s what it is there for. Santander still do an interest free OD for Graduates for 3 years after you leave Uni, so go and buy that pair of Heels, go out and buy all the shots – it’s a time to be selfish, it’s your money. As long as you pay anything you have outgoing, then it’s all cool. I am a material girl living in a material world, and it’s fine with me.
So I hope this kind of showed you everyone feels the same, and it’s fine to be happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time (cheers T-Swift). Let’s do it together.
Until next time xo