Thursday, 18 December 2014

Keep Calm & Carry On


I’ve scoured the internet trying to find ‘self-help’ guides for when you feel like absolutely everything is going wrong. I’ve tried to relate to those awful horoscopes you read, nodding in fake agreement when it tells me everything will be ok. I even sat there trying to find a song that truly related to how I felt, but Adele is only good for heartbreaks, not lifebreaks.

I’ll break it down. This year I thought I had it sorted, I graduated, had a top job in fashion PR, had those really nice black ankle boots from Topshop (you know the ones). Yup, for me, that was everything sorted. Until, in the space of a month, in the following happened: family dog died, my entire family home was ruined in a horrible house fire, my nanny collapsed, my dad had a minor stroke, and my uncle unfortunately took his own life. My life became more complicated than an episode of Eastenders at Christmas, and I quite frankly, couldn’t handle it.

On top of all of this total confusion, I realised that my job I had been so jammy about wasn’t what I expected. I felt underused and underpaid, and I was frustrated, as I had so much to give, I was a fresh graduate wanting to learn. I felt stupid having to come into work and update my managers on the next dramatic episode in my life, answering the same questions over and over again…No, I don’t know how the fire started…yes, at least we are all OK… yes, at least I was there… yes, at least he is at peace…

I felt like screaming, actually, it’s not OK. There are no ‘at least’s’ that can soothe a situation like that. Of course I’m pleased that none of us died, that the dog is at peace, that my uncle is at peace, that my dad is ok and that my nanny is ok… but when you’re living it, it doesn’t seem like things will ever be OK. I lost my dog, my house, my possessions, I had to start again. And on top of this unknown situation, I also had to cope with my dad being ill, and the other issues. There is no guide book for this. As if being 21 wasn’t hard enough without having the rug beneath your feet swept from underneath you.

So how have I dealt with this situation? And what can I say to people who may also feel like their lives are falling apart? It’s simple, it’s cliché, and LORD KNOWS I HATE CLICHES, but it’s just carrying on. You try and smile about things, laugh about things with your parents and friends; accept that some things are just out of your control. If you feel like things are really bad, talk to a third party. The Samaritans are there 24 hours a day to help you, and they will just listen, they won’t try and console or give advice, they just let you rant until you literally have nothing else to say.

The one thing that I think helped me stay completely sane was just reacting however I wanted to. I never tried to keep anything in, and I never tried to pretend everything was fine. If I wanted to cry, I did. If I felt like being horrible (which I did, quite a lot, sorry) I was horrible and dismissive and quiet. When I wanted to laugh, I did. I never tried to pretend I was OK, but I let people know, and I truly believe being honest allowed me to kind of move on. Whilst it will always be a period of my life I won’t forget, I think I’m ok with it all now. Weirdly, my epiphany of ‘hey I’m ok with the fire’ came when I saw Ed Sheeran and he sung ‘I See Fire’. What a loser, but it’s true.

I don’t really know why I’m writing this. But I think it’s a good way to say SEE YOU LATER to all this rubbish, as I am actually very very close to moving into my house after 6 months. It will be a building site, but I don’t care.

This is a post for those of you who have had relatively normal lives, and then things change. For those of you who hate drama, but have it thrust upon you when you want it to go away. For those of you who feel like things just continually go wrong, and why is it always you? It’s a post to say it’s going to be absolutely fine, cry if you want to, see a doctor, speak to your friends, go out, don’t feel bad, buy that new mac make up, buy that expensive bag – it will always be OK in the end. 

And if it’s not, it’s not the end. 

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Wednesday, 17 December 2014

Things You Shouldn't Feel Bad For Enjoying


Like this Christmas jumper, life is full of guilty pleasures. But why are we made to feel bad for enjoying these things? I hereby will never apology for the following again:

   1- Drinking full fat coke. It seems to be an awkward secret when you open a can of that sweet sweet nectar, full of gorgeous sugar and yummy caffeine to brighten up your 2pm droop. I will gulp my full fat coke with pride.

      2- Knowing everything there is about the Kardashians. So what if I know when Kourtney gave birth, the age orders of all the children (including the Jenner boys. Oh yes, I’m a fan), and vocalise on a daily basis how upset I still am about Khloe and Lamar. They are TV Royalty.

      3-  Getting most of my daily knowledge from The Daily Mail & Buzzfeed. I work in PR, I read papers every single day, I know what’s going on in the world. Leave me be if I want to know what Helen Flanagan wore to a D-List party, or for totally agreeing with ’21 Things only Harry Potter Fans Understand.’

      4- Loving One Direction. I tried. I really did try to distance myself. But their catchy tunes and polished good looks have enticed me in. I will no longer try and be quiet when humming along to ‘Steal My Girl’, and pretend that it would be ‘totally lame’ to see them in concert…when in actuality, I did check for tickets the other day. Sold out. Sob.

5-  Following on from this, I wholeheartedly admit that I fancy Harry Styles. Not even sorry.

   6-    Not getting the house music trend. I just don’t get it guys. I like to go to a club, dance and sing. I don’t like standing there for 5 hours nodding my head to beeps and repetitive beats. Call me old, but stick on something else would ya DJ?

     7-  At 21 years old, still totally buying into the Disney trend. Topshop doing Disney pants and pyjamas? Take my money, nostalgia sells folks.

       8-   Loving the occasional selfie. Whilst the word sends a slight shiver up my spine, I can no longer pretend I don’t love a good selfie. Not that I love myself, but lord above do I love #demfliterz.

      9-   Not knowing 100% when I will move out. I’m asked on a daily basis by friends/family when I think I’ll move out. On paper, it all adds up – good job, stable income…so surely I should pack my bags and go? Not so fast fellas. 21 isn’t what it used to be. I’m more of a child than I was at 11, when I probably could have moved out and got a mortgage (I was very independent). Sorry Mum & Dad, I’m here for a bit longer.

   10-  And finally, and definitely most importantly, there will never be an apology from me about knowing all the words to S Club 7, Steps & The Spice Girls hits. Coz karaoke audiences everywhere will thank me when I get the party started. 

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Wednesday, 10 December 2014

favourite things: december

(fake bake mousse / new look boots / the missing / selfie stick / mac / eye of horus / dressing gown)

So whilst the weather is dark and windy, outfit posts are pretty much impossibility at the moment. I also don’t really have the means still to provide some smashing outfits as space is scarce, yes, I am STILL not in my house. That is definitely not one of my favourite things. Anyway, here are a few things that are on my favourites list this festive month:

1 – Fake Bake 5 Minute Mousse
I am definitely a bit slow on the uptake when it comes to Fake Tan. I was eternally pale throughout my teenage years, whilst my peers glowed (albeit a bit orange) beside me. But now, I firmly understand why it’s so popular. I feel like a tan really does transform an outfit, and makes me feel a little bit better. This 5 minute mousse from Fake Bake is perfect for me, absolutely no fuss and a gorgeous natural glow in minutes. This is good for me because I like to just get up and go. I will do a proper little post featuring my BEAMING tan soon, but I definitely recommend this.

2 – New Look Boots
These bad boys mean business. I bought these for a night out and I adore them. They’re super comfy but make such a massive statement. I wish I could wear them all day, they just make me feel like the sassy biker chick I am deep down. My dad didn’t like them, and said I looked ridiculous, which in my eyes is a great sign. (Hi dad).

3 – The Missing
This BBC programme is all I think about these days. Next week is the final episode, and my Tuesday’s just won’t be the same. It is centred around James Nesbitt’s character and his wife trying to find their son that went missing years before, very McCann-esque. I quite literally can’t tell you how it’s going to end. I’m starting to suspect everyone, it’s just so tense. Catch up on iPlayer for sure.

4 – Selfie stick
Please don’t hate me. I was as cynical as you when this first came out. I felt it was beneath me, as I clearly am the epitome of cool. When I went to Budapest, I sneered at my friend who said we should have got one. But then, I saw millions of them, everywhere I went, and realised they are the coolest things ever and I definitely definitely need one. I just need to find some friends to fit in the selfies with first…

5 – Mac Heirloom Collection
I don’t usually buy into the limited edition collections, whilst I think the ideas are cool I effectively think it’s the same product, and anyway who would wear blue/yellow eyeshadow (Mac The Simpsons collection). But I have been suckered into the heirloom collection good and proper. The new packaging is beyond beautiful, very Romantic-period inspired, and I just love the sparkles. I’ve asked for a smokey eye kit for Christmas, and have it on good authority that Santa has delivered, so watch this space!



6 – Eye of Horus eye pencils
I usually just stick to black eyeliner, and to an eyeshadow palette when it comes to doing anything fancy. But when I was sent a gold eyeshadow pencil from brand Eye of Horus, I had to try it out. I was pleasantly surprised by the pigmentation, it was a strong colour but not overwhelming, and had a real festive vibe about it. I think it’s look amazing to use in the corner of your eyes, and just to make your eyes sparkle. It comes in loads of different colours, and I recommend everyone to try it out J

7 – Dressing Gown
Not as glamorous as a fashion blog promises, but this time of year calls for comfort. My new dressing gown is literally the comfiest thing in the entire world and I wish I could wear it everywhere. It’s so soft and snuggly, and I love the pale pink colour. Pyjamas are the new skinny jeans people.

What are your favourite things? Until next time xo
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Monday, 1 December 2014

2014, or, The Weirdest Year of My Life

a year in the life of me.

So, it’s the 1st of December, which means 2014 is drawing to a close. Needless to say, it’s been a weird year. And to be quite honest, I’m quite happy to see the back of it. I thought I’d do a little round up of my top moments, some good some bad, and think about what I learnt from them (even if it is that the most important thing to have is a fire alarm.)

Leaving university.
For the past 3 years I had been in a happy little bubble in University land, where eating noodles for dinner and having naps at 4pm was acceptable behaviour. A world where I could wander around the house all day in a onesie and if I fancied dying my hair pink, I could. Well my friends, all good things come to an end, and in July I officially graduated from Nottingham Trent University with a 2:1 degree in English with Linguistics. I do miss University, seeing my friends everyday, doing weird things that respectable human beings wouldn’t do (ie. Watching Netflix all day eating dominos and ignoring my dissertation), but it is very nice to be earning my own money. Nottingham will always be my place, my little haven away from responsibility, and I’ll always love it for that. You da best Nottingham.

Getting my first job…then quitting and getting another one.
The whole point of school, A-Levels, University, interning is to get a job. Let’s face it. It was my goal in third year to graduate with a job settled, as I knew if I didn’t I’d just want to bum around for ages and I DESPERATELY NEEDED to start earning money. Luckily for me, well actually down to lots of hard work and perseverance, I landed a job in PR & Social Media for a big footwear brand in London. I found this out on my 21st Birthday as I was in the business class lounge on my way to Paris, so I felt pretty jammy, and as if my life was now on track and I could just chill out.

Well, they do say that when you make plans, God laughs at you. I started the job in June, and after a while I realised it wasn’t for me. It actually came to a head in August after the fire etc (I’ll talk more about this in a mo) as I realised I just couldn’t afford the commute anymore, and I needed a challenge. It was amicable, but it interested me that a job I thought was perfect for me turned out not to be what I had in mind.

I’m now in my new position at a PR agency, and I couldn’t be happier. Making changes is scary but sometimes important for your own career progression, and it helps I work with one of my best friends everyday J yay for being a grown up (loose use of ‘adult’ as I still can’t cook anything and the thought of babies makes me want to run for the hills). 

The whole Fire thing.
If you read my post HERE, you’ll know that pretty soon after I started my first job my whole life changed in the space of a week. First, my beloved dog Ollie died, and secondly, my beloved house and ALL OF MY POSSESSIONS were burnt in a horrible house fire. I won’t go into again, as you can just read about it on my post, but it’s still not sorted. We are still not in the house, albeit that we will be next week hopefully, and the house won’t be fully restored for at least a year. I seriously look at my life this year in two parts, pre-fire and post-fire, as you just can’t comprehend how different the first part of the year was to the last. Everything is different, all my clothes are new, and my whole house will be completely different. It’s nearly the end now, and all I want is to move back into my house and just pretend the fire never happened. 

Realising that I worry too much
I think that the fire, and then a few other things that happened in the months after (which I won’t go into detail about, but let’s just say pretty much everything you could think to go wrong did, made me start to worry a lot. My friends and my bf say I worry about everything, always planning and stuff, and it’s really annoying. It’s such a pain to worry about stuff, and I do it without realising, planning out loud about things that I don’t need to. So my New Year’s Resolution is to worry less. I’m already worrying about it.

The nice little things…
I also did a lot of nice things this year. Like turned 21 and went to Paris with Joe…had an amazing 21st birthday party at University which I’ll never forget…submitted my dissertation…went to Nice to see my best friend and went on a boat and saw the Monaco Grand Prix…got a Macbook air…got a car…went to Budapest…realised how good my friends and family are…oh, and I realised brown hair doesn’t suit me, I’m a blonde chick.

So 2014, can’t say you’ve been my favourite year, but you’ve certainly not been boring. See ya never, please introduce me to your friend 2015. 

Until next time xo
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Tuesday, 25 November 2014

thankful tuesday


i'm actually writing this on a monday night, because i feel the need to be positive and thankful. i have a pretty rough week ahead, as i have a family members funeral (srsly bad few months guys),  and i'm starting to really get frustrated at the fact i'm not back in my house yet. christmas is so soon and i just feel weird not being in my house. BUT i do have a lot of things to be thankful for, so this will cheer me up.

not being ill... sounds corny, but the start of the band aid 30 video of the woman with ebola is truly heartbreaking, and i feel very lucky to have my health + have never suffered anything worse than tonsillitis. 

christmas...christmas is very soon, and i can't help but feel festive and twinkly when i hear the songs and see the lights. i can't wait for christmas back in my house, WHICH IS DEFINITELY GOING TO HAPPEN. if it doesn't then christmas will be postponed. but let's not think about that.

jumper weather...i adore winter weather. i love the cold and wrapping up warm, big boots and thick jumpers. although the other day i was literally head to toe black and looked a bit gothic... but i was darnnnnn cosy.

passing my theory test... i am 21 years old, fyi. i did take my theory when i was 18 but it actually ran out, embarrassingly. so i pottered along last week and passed! woohoo! which meant i was able to book my ACTUAL driving test!! this is a very big deal for me, as i felt i would become one of those people who just don't drive, but i am well on my way because..............

I GOT A CAR...yes, i was very very lucky because on sunday i got my first ever car. it was a bargain, and such good value. it's a cute little ford ka, and it's called flopsy felicia (because I'm cute and sassy). i absolutely love it and am very grateful to my parents for lending me the ca$$$$h. it's such an extra incentive to learn, and when i pass (which i will) in january, i will zooming around in this all day (well, as much as petrol will allow me).

i actually feel a lot better now :) always good to make a nice list when you're feeling a bit down. until next time xo
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Thursday, 20 November 2014

thankful thursday


So I realise I usually do this on a Tuesday, but hey shake it off as TayTay says. Move on. I can be thankful on a thursday too ;) it'll be brief, but still nice to acknowledge what made me smile.

This week I am Thankful for...

having my theory test tomorrow... eep i am about 4 years behind everyone, but i am finally on track to passing my driving test. if all goes well tomorrow i'll book my test and be on the roads in no time! broom broom.

ordering wallpaper... we are FINGERS CROSSED about 3 weeks away from moving back into our house, that dramatically burnt down in august. i've finally been able to order some gorgeous floral wallpaper in preparation, and have kindly been donated some BEAUTIFUL furniture for my new room. i'm very excited, and wish i could just move back in now. you never really appreciate your own space until it's been taken away from you, and i'm so ready for it now.

planning christmas presents... i'm only buying for a handful of people this year, but because i finally have some money i can actually buy some NICE things this year. last year i was a poor and lowly third year who couldnt even afford to buy beans, but this year i will be able to buy my nearest and dearest some lovely little bits. i think my mum & dad deserve something nice after the past few months, but if you're reading this, don't get too excited.

pinterest...i've recently rediscovered pinterest and OMG I COULD SIT ON IT FOR HOURS. i wish i lived in a world of white walls, endless ribbon supplies, and beautiful italic handwriting.

until next time xo
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Sunday, 16 November 2014

budapest: an amateur's guide


i apologise for this post being so pic heavy, and all the photos being different sizes. i'm not clever enough to edit all that, and frankly cannot be bothered. there's a reason that george ezra sung about budapest, it really is a hidden treasure chest of fun. myself and my bezzie went for 4 days on a spontaneous adventure of the Hungarian capital, and i thought i'd tell you all the best bits :)

first off, it's super cheap to get there. it was £60 each return flight via ryanair, and then we got an amazing little apartment on airbnb for £62 each for 4 nights - which is pretty amazing. our apartment was on a central street called vaci street, which had loads of amazing restaurants and bars, so for the price we were amazed. i really recommend airbnb, to provide cute little rooms/apartments with a quirky twist. 

there's a tonne of amazing things to do in the beautiful city, and 3 days is a perfect amount of time to get them all done. i really recommend buying a ticket on the big bus tours, which are the big brown and gold buses you normally see in london traffic. at first i laughed it off, but then we were offered a ticket worth 40 euros which got us a 3 day bus ticket all over Budapest, tickets to visit the Baths, and also seats on the River Cruise. you cannot deny such a bargain, so we caved in. the bus tours provide a commentary of all the best bits, and you can hop on and off whenever you like, so you can visit the big tourist spots yourself. the commentary provided some really interesting facts, and you can't beat sitting at the top of an open air bus.

the castle is a real highlight, offering absolutely amazing panoramic views of the city. it's amazing to see at such a height. i also really recommend the river cruise, and if you can, take it at around 5pm when it's getting dark. not only do you get cocktails on board (we definitely took advantage of that!) but you get to see the city illuminated. the chain bridge and the houses of parliament look amazing lit up in the evening, providing a breathtaking backdrop for any photos! 

budapest is really famous for its thermal baths, and these are definitely the main attraction. we visited the largest baths, the szechenyi baths, but there are quite a few others darted around. it's a huge amazing yellow building, with a lot of amazing facilities such as sauna, massages, lengths, water aerobics. the baths outside are so warm, except you have to run in during the colder months! the baths inside go up to temperatures of 40degrees, which are amazing just to lounge around in. again, it looks amazing lit up!

last but not least, are the iconic ruin bars. from the outside, these buildings just look completely unassuming, but it's a different story when you go inside. they're amazing, hip, quirky, weird, and random bars, with graffiti all over the walls, weird things everywhere (my little ponys etc), shishas...it's like a maze, with rooms everywhere. with ridiculously low drink prices, you could easily spend an entire evening here, soaking up the amazing atmosphere. 

budapest was beyond gorgeous, and there was a million other things i could write about, but why don't you find out yourself? until next time xo
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Thursday, 13 November 2014

We Need to Talk About Kim Kardashian

I realise that all society seems to do is keep up with Kim and her famous siblings, but after her recent attempt to #BreakTheInternet, I feel like there are a few thoughts that should be addressed. It’s quite literally been playing on my mind. Imagine. Kim’s oiled buttock just bobbing around my vulnerable little head. I needed an outlet for this. And hey, that’s why I have a blog.

My initial reaction when I scrolled down my newsfeed and saw THE picture was, ‘Oh Kim. What are you like.’ In all honesty, I wasn’t THAT surprised. Ms. Kardashian-West has graced the pages of Playboy, posed provocatively on the front of GQ, and let’s not forget her, er, entrance shall we say into the public eye in the form of her sex tape. This is not a woman who is shy about her body, so I am less than surprised to once again see the body of Kim K on the front of a magazine.

I prepare you here, as some of my musings are in defence of Kim K. Do not begin trolling, as I will probably cry and delete my blog. The response to this photo was hysterical. People retweeting/regramming the photo en masse, articles being written about it, front page news everywhere. I couldn’t quite believe people were so shocked. Kim K has never been a retiring type, and due to the fact she has no acting/singing talent, her body has become a main vocal point (as well as her fashion/husband/baby/life/business ventures). And, in my opinion, she has become a fantastic role model for young girls (WAIT FOR IT) in the sense that she has a feminine figure. She is not stick thin, she has curves, and #datass. I feel she has changed the face of the ‘ideal body’ to one with a waist and a big behind, the opposite of heroin chic of the Nineties. And whilst I believe there is no such thing as a normal body, it is refreshing to see a woman so proud of her body. 

Yes. I am aware Photoshop has played such a massive part in the photo. And yes, I didn’t really like seeing a fully naked Kardashian as I had my morning banana. But the photo itself is a woman who is proud of her body, and is almost a middle finger up to ‘the haters’. It’s almost poking fun at the fact that she started this career vulnerable and naked, and she’s made a fortune from it, laying her life bare for the public to see. So she’s standing up, in all her glory, at the absolute peak of her astronomical career, and saying she’s still here. Still naked. And still getting you talking.

I do not condone all of her ventures, and whilst I am a huge watcher of her show (SUE ME IT’S ADDICTIVE), I did not feel it was fair for disgruntled tweeters to say ‘IT’S DISGUSTING. SHE’S A MOTHER’. She is also a fashion icon, a sex symbol, and a woman. She is allowed to feel good, despite the fact she has a child. If anything it’s a ‘I’ve still got it’ message. If Beyonce can roll around in the ‘Partition’ video, and still be a doting mother, why can’t Kim drape herself in pearls and do what she does best – pose for photos?  Whilst the women are polar opposites in regards to careers, they are both mothers, and considered attractive in the media – why is it one rule for one, and another for others? The woman must work DAMN HARD even without the photoshop to maintain that body, so why not? it is a shame people have felt the need to 'slut-shame' Kim due to this photo. Its purpose is to showcase pride over her femininity, which should not be a basis of hatred or disgust. 

Ms. K-W represents a lot of things that are wrong with society, such as excess and the reality TV generation. I fully appreciate the photo isn’t to everyone’s taste, heck, I’m not even sure I like it. But it’s not right to actively source down leaked private nudes of celebrities, and then be appalled when a woman publically says ‘Here I am’. I feel that we should just roll our eyes and move on, as let’s face it, the photo did what it said. It #BroketheInternet. 

Kim is the Queen of the Hashtag generation, whether we like it or not, and we must bow to the undisputed Ruler of Social Media as she once again conquered her online world. #no filter
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Tuesday, 4 November 2014

thankful tuesday


another tuesday has arrived before our very eyes, which means it's PRACTICALLY friday...doesn't it? i have a whole tonne of things to be thankful for this week, so hold on to your hats, whether they be literal or metaphorical. 

this week i am thankful for...

halloween....halloween is one of my FAVOURITE times of the year. i travelled back to my student heaven of nottingham to celebrate with my friends this year, and as you can see above, i was suitably scary. i usually like to think of something creative to go as, but i've been a busy bee and have no funds, so i just went for the psycho ex-girlfriend look. nailed it. 

new job...i started my new job on monday and already i can tell it's going to be fab :) the team have all been so welcoming, taking me out to lunch and providing a box of shortbread for me on my first day (my favourite snack). little things to make you feel welcome when you're nervous is just what you need to feel at ease, and i'm excited to start all my new responsibilities. 

public transport being nice...i'm relying on the x5 coach this week to get me to work, and so far it's been an absolute dream. don't stop now, stagecoach.

christopher from educating the east end....bit strange but i've just watched the final episode and it's so so lovely to see such a positive young man. a favourite quote was 'i just realised something, the more scared you are of something, the more exciting the situation can be'. seriously feel good, so have a watch if you feel like a smile and a warm fuzzy feeling :)

american horror story: coven...i only started this series on sunday but OHMYGOSH IT'S INCREDIBLE. i loved the first series of AHS but didn't really connect with the 2nd one, but this series is absolutely storming it so far. love a bit of gore and jessica lange. 

i'm off to budapest this weekend with my best friend for a little break, so expect a little post about that :) hopefully i will get a new camera soon and can take some pics! until next time xo
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Monday, 27 October 2014

humble beginnings

(coat / scarf / jeans / boots / top)

sometimes comfort and simplicity is key. this is an outfit i've been taking to more often than not recently. i absolutely adore how easy it is, but how chic it looks. black ripped jeans and pointed boots scream RUSSELL BRAND at me, but i kind of love it. my slouchy white top from topshop is a god send, and i definitely need it in more colours. matched with my teddy bear coat from primark (bargain at £25) and the softest scarf known to man from new look - boom. the perfect winter outfit.

i apologise for the iPhone photos, my camera is currently not with me due to fire etc. you know the story. i'm just happy this blog has something fashion-esque on it again.

until next time xo
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Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Things Twenty-Somethings REALLY Shouldn't be Worrying About


Ah yes, another post about being in the dreaded ’20-something’ era. It seems to be an age that is garnering a lot of attention, as we all (according to the news) are just so ‘self-entitled and lazy’. Sure. I feel like there’s so much pressure on young women who are my age and older to be a thousand things at once and then think 5 years into the future, not allowing us to ever really enjoy what we’re actually doing. I thought I’d do an honest list of things that we really SHOULD NOT be worried about, hope it eases your mind.

1 – Marriage.

Yes, by my next birthday I will be the age my mum was when she married my dad. Yes, this worries me as I still get excited watching Frozen and remain certain there is no sadder moment than when Mufasa dies. We are not our parent’s generation, it is no longer a general thing to get married at 20/21. If this is what you want and is right for you, then fab, I would like to look at pictures of your dress. But if not, then just c h i l l   o u t. You don’t ACTUALLY have to get married at all, you can live in sin (joke) and just live with someone. I listen to some of my friends’ expectations, saying by 23 they will be married and at 25 have a baby, and it makes me laugh. You can’t plan things like this, it’s something that will just happen, and hopefully it’ll be the perfect moment without you even knowing. If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, then just enjoy it for what it is, if you’re single, enjoy yourself man. You’re the best.

2 – Babies.

This goes hand in hand with the first point. This is the decade where MAYBE it might happen. But this is definitely not something to start getting in a tizz about. Just because it MIGHT happen in the next 10 years doesn’t mean you need to start worrying. Think about the 10 years between being 10 and 20, how much happened and how much you changed? Exactly. So no sweat. What will be, will be…

3 – ‘Having It All Figured Out’

This is my biggest pet peeve. Just because you’re TECHNICALLY an adult in the eyes of the law does not mean that you need to have everything sussed out. Only a few months ago I was writing essays about Postcolonialism, wrapped in a coat and gloves because my student house was so cold, asking if I could put tin foil in the microwave…and I am 21. So despite the fact I am legally allowed to do what I want, it doesn’t necessarily mean I can yet. And I don’t want to either, I’m still figuring everything out, which is quite fun as it goes. It’s fun messing up sometimes, realising what you shouldn’t do and thinking ‘Oh I’ve done that before and it didn’t work, let’s try this…’ It’s all about dem experiences, people. And no, apparently you can’t put tin foil in the microwave. Lesson learnt.

4 – Work Pressures.

My generation are facing a bit of a tough situation. There was once a world where you went to University, get your degree, and walk into a cosy little Grad scheme fresh out of university, jolly happy with yourself. Well that just is NOT the case in 2014. Employers expect an enriched CV full of internships here and there, amazing qualifications, blogs...oh and if you’ve managed to travel alongside all of this then you’re winning. But some people don’t have the time for all of this, or the money. So when you are finally ready for a job, you either can’t get one or you get an unpaid internship. Well people, let me tell you this, Kanye West was an intern not long ago for Fendi, so don’t feel too disheartened. Getting a job WILL HAPPEN. I promise. There’s a tonne out there for you clever clever people, it’s just about (sorry) the CV and Cover letter. Blurgh. But YOU WILL GET A JOB.

And when you DO get that job (well done!) do not worry about the future. You’re in your twenties, it’s all about finding out what you actually like to do. You may leave University dead set on becoming an Accountant for a major business in the city, and actually find out that you’d much prefer working for a Charity. That’s fine. You can chop and change, start again, and if you really get into a muddle, just take a break. It’s cool. Find what works for you. Don’t pressure yourself to work yourself into a hole, just do your best and you’ll be fine. You can do it.

5 – Money Money Money

So this is the biggest thing that I worry about. Money. Do I have any, where’s it gone, if I hadn’t have bought that £2 necklace from Claires Accessories when I was 10 would I be a multimillionaire now? The answer is: No. You’re not supposed to have a tonne of money at this age, unless you won the lottery/have savings/have rich parents. Now that I’m working I am better off than I was at Uni, where I thought I was rich if I was -470 (my Overdraft limit was -500). But even so, I still dip into that sweet sweet Overdraft by the end of the month, and that’s what it is there for. Santander still do an interest free OD for Graduates for 3 years after you leave Uni, so go and buy that pair of Heels, go out and buy all the shots – it’s a time to be selfish, it’s your money. As long as you pay anything you have outgoing, then it’s all cool. I am a material girl living in a material world, and it’s fine with me.

So I hope this kind of showed you everyone feels the same, and it’s fine to be happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time (cheers T-Swift). Let’s do it together.

Until next time xo

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thankful tuesday


i feel that sometimes life can get in the way of things. this is certainly the case with this blog. i have had a very busy/traumatic few months, but i've powered on with my day to day life, seeing friends and trying to have fun. but i felt like i've let slip something that i created myself and something i was always so proud and excited about. so i pledge that i will no longer let being tired or unmotivated stop me from blogging, even if no one cares anymore. i love the gorgeous Lisette Loves blog, who features 'Thankful Thursday' posts, and i feel that this is more than apt at the moment. it's a way of staying positive amongst crazy goings-on. so here goes...

I am Thankful for...

making plans.... i am notorious for making plans. i am pretty much incapable of 'going with the flow', which can irritate some people but that's just the way i am toots. making some exciting plans like going to visit joey in nottingham, seeing ed sheeran, halloween dress up ideas, going to budapest, visiting harry potter studios.....and before we know it, it will be christmas. little things like that keep me excited and always looking forward to something.

new starts....bit of an exciting one this one! i have been offered a position at a new PR Agency a little closer to home, as an Account / Social Media Executive. i'm super super excited about this change and ready to accept new responsibilities and be a legit working person. as well as this, we SHOULD (FINGERS CROSSED EVERYONE PLEASE) be moving back into our house in a few weeks too! this is super exciting news as we have been here there and everywhere since the fire, and it will be amazing to finally have my room back rather than living out of suitcases and bags. 

friends...not the show, although i am pretty damn excited that it is coming to netflix soon! my friends have been pretty spectacular the past few months, so props to you all you fine human beings you. 

udon noodles... after all, not everything has to be sentimental does it? 

i'm hoping to take this blog in a new direction. i want to still post outfit posts (once i get a new camera wah), but i want a mix up of lifestyle posts/general musings/good food/travel posts whipped up there too. i want this to be my outlet for anything i want, not just fashion (although do expect that).

so, until next time xo.

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Monday, 13 October 2014

oi...what's in your bag?


greetings loved ones. i'm trying to get back into the swing of things, despite still not having a house and a few other things going wrong. i want to try and keep this blog going, mainly because i've bought SO MUCH NEW STUFF it's a good way of excusing the money i've spent. 

i got a fab new bag the other day, so i thought i would finally do a 'what's in my bag post', before it goes all gross and full of receipts and foundation marks. you know what i'm talking about ladies. the bag itself is from new look, and i love the size and how convenient it is for carrying all your crap around in. new look are fab for bags and accessories, at really cheap prices as well. 

1 // The Boring Stuff.
so the first pic includes the boring stuff. most girls carry their purse everywhere they go, and i still love my bright pink ted baker purse that i got for my 20th birthday. it's pretty big, so has more than enough room for all my cards etc. i also love how bright it is. the other boring stuff is a bright pink comb (mainly so i can see the damn thing) and my oyster card, which i have a love/hate relationship with - mainly as it just seems to eat away my money. 

2 // The Edgy Stuff.
I say edgy, it's really not. I've started carrying my beloved Boy London beanie with me in case I get stuck in the rain without an umbrella. it's the most snug beanie in the world, and even though Boy London is 'old' (or whatever), i still love it - and will never throw it away due to the price of the thing...i also take my beats headphones EVERYWHERE i go, they're the best headphones evereverever, noise cancelling and super comfy. ace.

3 // The Foodie Stuff.
i didn't want to lie and take these out, as let's face it we are all human. i will hold my hands up and say yes, i do have a pack of smokey bacon crisps in my bag. not all times, but most times. best flavour. also, a pack of mints...because bacon crisps are smelly. moving on...

4 // The Beauty Stuff.
so, by the end of the day i look in the mirror and my face tends to look haggard and panda-eyed. so carrying make up is a must. i carry my real techniques expert face brush and eco powder brush with me, to help top up my rimmel foundation and mac studio fix powder. these are all you need for a flawless base, with a little bit of help from rimmel's concealer. i also ADORE aussie's dry shampoo, such a gorgeous smell and helpful for giving your hair a little oomph when you need it. i also take hand cream EVERYWHERE because i have an irrational fear of dry hands and the feeling...*shivers*. i also bought this AMAZING PERFUME from New Look, called 'pure dusk'. it smells very similar to flowerbomb by viktor &rolf, but at just £7.99! go and snap one up, a perfect handbag perfume.

apologies for being so wordy but it's so much fun to w r i t e again!!! love ya. until next time xo
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Wednesday, 1 October 2014

aw14 outfit builder

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so i totally promise that this blog is gonna be back up and running FROM HERE ON OUT. what fire??? exactly.

this is an outfit that i feel is PERFECT for the upcoming AW14 season. i don't know about you but i am BUZZING to wear boots, coats, and generally snuggle up again. pale legs just ain't my thing. 

the tshirt is beyond perfect. boyfriend fit tees with statements are definitely the way to go this season, they're very easy to chuck on and just feel stylish, especially with some layered necklaces. black skinny jeans are like beyonce..they don't need introducing. everyone needs a pair and i definitely recommend topshop jeans to EVERYONE. teamed with these amazing ash norton boots, and the spot on black gilet this outfit is excellent for everyday wear. i also included a lip liner that kylie jenner would be proud of, i've only recently started wearing it myself but it's CHANGED MY LIFE FOR THE BETTER. it's amazing.

plzzz comment + stuff. i'm back now b*tches. until next time xo
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Thursday, 11 September 2014

My 16 Year Old Selfie

the definite word of the year is 'selfie'. whether you're taking one yourself, talking about kimmy k's latest effort, or singing along to that dreadful selfie song, you can't escape it. especially as it now has a rightful place in the oxford english dictionary. so, i thought i'd start a different blog piece: a letter to my 16 year old selfie.

despite selfies only really taking off properly the past few years, i think everyone has that hidden little folder of prehistoric selfies they took in their teens. my myspace page was full of pictures of me from awkward angles, looking far too serious, and shock horror: with no editing or filters to mask my flaws (ie. oily skin and smudged eyeliner). 

i thought it may be fun to write a letter to the 16 year old Louisa in the selfie here, giving tips on the selfie game, and the story behind the selfie.

Hey Louisa.

you're on your way to your year 11 prom, and you're sat in the car as your dad is in bargain booze. the perfect time for a candid selfie, i agree. first things first, let's talk about the outfit.

you weren't that bothered about going all out for prom. and i still applaud you for not getting a cinderella dress and spending thousands on a night out in a hall. but, in hindsight, the dress wasn't great. i know you were on a big floral hype and thought it was great to match your shoes/flower to the colour of the dress. unfortunately, the orange was a bit too much. and you are far too pale for orange, just a lil heads up. 

now. make up wise - you still have a lot to learn. you basically wore no make up to your own prom. i know that you applied a little more dream matte mousse than usual, and allowed yourself to use the tester of Bad Gal mascara you only saved for special occasions, and that should have sufficed. but maybe you should have learnt to apply a little blusher? a smidge of eyeliner? maybe even done your eyebrows. who knows. you won't ever be a make up artist, but you do learn how to apply some bad ass eyeshadow, and that's pretty cool.

the hair. i remember you got it dyed special for today with a superdrug own kit. looking sharp. just hold your breath because you will actually dye your hair brown in a few eyes...and like it. you then progress back to a *gulp* natural blonde. no more white hair. and no more side fringe, they go out of fashion. sorry boo.

we need to talk angles girl. that above your face look was doing nothing for you except emphasize just how chubby your cheeks are. that weird smirk is creeping me out as well. the lighting is all wrong as well, and you didn't get a great view of the BEST BIT: your orange flower <3 don't worry. in time you will become accustomed to the vanity of true selfies, loving a good filter and perfecting your pout as you kill that vague selfie pose.

so, last things, the story behind the selfie. well, as explained, i was on my way to my friends to get in the classic year 11 limo to prom, drinking WKDs and thinking we were bad men. it was a fun night, with cheesy music and the amazing opportunity to see your teachers pulling some serious shapes. it may seem a million years ago, but a few of those people are still your best friends. go you. 

Love, 21 year old Louisa (who still loves a good selfie).

I tag Sophie Etc, Sarah Nunn, Tattooed Tea Lady and Lisette Loves to do this :) let's see if this can be a 'thing'.


until next time xo

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